I’m sure all you NoFappers know what semen retention is.
But for those who don’t….
Semen retention is the practice of refraining from all masturbation, porn, and sexual activity.
In my opinion there are two camps on the topic of semen retention.
Camp 1: “Semen retention is an ancient practice that allows a man to transmute his sexual desire into energy that can be directed towards his goals and desires in the real world.”
Camp 2: “Semen retention is practiced by a bunch of gullible, sexually frustrated men. It’s all bullshit.”
So which camp do I fall in?
I don’t engage in bro-science.
I am not a doctor, so I don’t pretend to know the biological ins and outs of semen retention.
I can only speak from my own experience.
I am currently a week into my own experimentation with semen retention.
I will take you through my experience through a full month on semen retention.
“Semen is a dynamic force”
General thoughts: The first few days I felt numerous urges, but easily managed to resist them because I had a plan in place.
- I will not use my smartphone in my room at all.
- I will complete necessary tasks on my smartphone between the hours of noon and 5pm
- When I have a sexual urge I will meditate for 10 minutes.
This plan has propelled me through week one.
It is quite the challenge.
Day 1: This is easy.
Day 2: Still Easy.
Day 3: Feeling urges….
Day 4: More urges….”i thought this was easy.”
Day 5: Calm….easy to focus on my work.
Day 6: Calm….easy to focus on my work.
Day 7: Intense urges….can barely focus. Sexual desire very strong.
Week 1 was a roller coaster as you can see.
By day 7 I struggled with a very important question:
“How do I channel this energy?”
Your natural response by the end of week one is going to be “how can I get pussy?…”what do I have to do to get my dick wet?”
You are a man…..this is natural. It’s our biological prerogative as men to spread our seed to as many women as possible.
But if we can override our base instincts and delay gratification there is potential to channel this energy into other areas of our lives.
“The emotion of sex has back of it the possibility of three constructive potentialities, they are:–
- The perpetuation of mankind.
2. The maintenance of health, (as a therapeutic agency, it has no equal).
3. The transformation of mediocrity into genius through transmutation.
Sex transmutation is simple and easily explained. It means the switching of the mind from thoughts of physical expression, to thoughts of some other nature.
Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires.
The transmutation of sex energy calls for the exercise of will-power, to be sure, but the reward is worth the effort. The desire for sexual expression is inborn and natural. The desire cannot, and should not be submerged or eliminated. But it should be given an outlet through forms of expression which enrich the body, mind, and spirit of man. If not given this form of outlet, through transmutation, it will seek outlets through purely physical channels.”
-Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
A lot to take in there.
I tried to focus especially on the line I put in bold….“sexual energy should be given an outlet through forms of expression.”
How I applied this Information:
- Reviewed my goals daily.
- Daily Meditation
- Lift/Exercise daily. (expression through body)
- Intermittent Fasting (no eating until noon-8pm)
- Continue honing professional skills (expression through mind)
- Limit complacency by building a new skill with extra time (coding) you can check out codeacademy here: https://selfishkings.wordpress.com/resources/
- Continue to provide value through this blog. (expression through mind)
The hardest of these tasks to focus on by far was coding.
Perhaps because I cannot express through creation in that realm just yet.
This blog was a lot easier to channel my focus because I enjoy writing….it is intrinsically motivating to me.
Week 1 Pros:
- A lot of excess energy by day 7
- Productive days 1-5
- No time spent lust chasing
- No cheap dopamine spent/wasted on phone
- Easier time lifting
Week 1 Cons:
- Difficulty sleeping by day 7
- Feelings of aggression (slight edge) by day 7
- Focus was minimal on day 7
Day 8: Feel tired. Urges waning.
Day 9: No urges…ability to focus returns.
Day 10: Restlessness
Day 11: Easily distracted
Day 12: Easily distracted (missed my post schedule)
Day 13: Falling back into some poor habits…checking phone a lot.
Day 14: Large cravings….high feelings of aggression.
Week two of semen retention was extremely difficult. I believe what happens is your brain is so wired to seek its conditioned hit of dopamine (porn/ejaculation) that it will guide you to overcompensate by gravitating towards cheap dopamine fixes (phones, social media, etc).
Just keep fighting. My personal goal is to replace cheap dopamine fixes with hard dopamine investments (writing, building skills, exercise).
Week 2 Pros:
- large amount of energy
- Observed that I paid more attention to appearance….simply taking a little more pride in how I look.
Week 2 Cons:
- Ability to focus lowered dramatically
- Mood swings
- Restlessness at times.
- Many urges
Week 2 was very difficult. Overcoming the urges was difficult, but I simply thought of you guys and how I wouldn’t be able to write this post for you.
So thank you for that.
Day 15: Lack of focus. Feelings of anger…lot of energy.
Day 16: Energy. Urges not so strong.
Day 17: Energy. Urges not so strong.
Day 18: High sexual urges…..lack of focus.
Day 19: Energy, calm, focus.
Day 20: Energy, calm, focus.
Day 21: Energy, urges.
Week 3 Pros:
- Steady feeling of energy
- urges not as strong
Week 3 Cons:
- Some urges
- Bouts of aggression/feelings of anger
As you can see week three was also somewhat of a roller coaster. The common thread however was that I had an overall feeling of energy.
A lot of people like to look at semen retention as a spiritual practice. Nothing wrong with that.
However, I try to look at it from a practical common sense perspective.
I am a man—>My strongest prerogative in life it to reproduce and spread my seed–>If I abstain from ejaculating my seed I should act in a manner that increases the likelihood of reproduction.
Now I know a lot of you guys reading this will say, “well I just don’t want any kids….I am MGTOW lifer.”
Again, it’s your life. I am not writing to tell you how to live it.
Modern dating/modern women have combined to create quite the toxic environment for good men (see Women Crave One Thing….).
My point is that the things a man will do to reproduce often overlap with the things that will increase a man’s overall well being….
- He will exercise
- Work more productvely
- Do interesting things, which adds to his life experience.
- He will focus on his goals.
And let’s be honest….I know from my own experience with porn and constant ejaculation to fulfill my dopamine cravings…..
That shit makes you miserable.
Now someone on my twitter feed acknowledge that “semen retention is bad for your long term health….”
Again, I am not suggesting you do semen retention for the rest of your life.
30 days is not going to kill you….
It is a practice of immense willpower, which most guys just can’t accomplish.
The guy who can go 30 days without “Cooming” as the zoomers say…..is a guy who can go…
months in a row working on his health.
Weeks at a time practicing a new skill.
Years without simping on trash apps like tinder.
The leverage here is willpower.
- low urges
- feelings of calmness
- steady energy
- Easy to wake up in the morning
- Increased ease lifting weights
- A desire to create
- Trouble sleeping at times
- Minor urges
Day 22: Low urges, steady energy.
Day 23: Low urges steady energy. Focus not too high…but not too low.
Day 24: Small urges, energized.
Day 25: No urges. Feel at peace with myself. As I write this I am not too concerned as how it is perceived as it is just my attempt to provide value in a small way to the world.
Day 26: Peace of mind….minimal urges.
Day 27: Wet dream….
“A desire to create.”
That is the essence of this experiment I believe. Releasing semen is an act of creation (the creation of another life).
And when you abstain from taking that creative action….you will naturally seek other avenues of creation in life.
In my case it has been writing on this blog. Continuing to hone my chosen skillsets.
I have even started a garden.
Every man’s creative force will fulfill itself in different ways. But it is my belief that if you are constantly wasting this powerful force chasing tinder poon and watching porn you may not get the chance to experience it.
There will be times where you feel extremely tempted to cave.
Just say to yourself….“I am not a slave to my lust.”
“I am a free man.”
And avoid smart products in your bedroom for God’s sake.
Day 28: Despite the wet dream, I still feel minimal urges to use porn….or pursue lust.
Day 29: (TBD)
Day 30: (TBD)
(I have not filled out the TBD day yet, because I have not completed them. They will be filled out. I wanted to release you guys a post today, but was short on time.)
Semen retention is a worthwhile experiment. Through its practice you can develop….
- Inner peace
- Large amounts of energy
- Destruction of vices like porn and simping (see On Simps)
- A desire to create.
The most important aspects of in my view being will-power and a desire to create as they can translate to all areas of your life.
I hope you guys give it a shot….not a lot of men can do it.
Trust me…I am aware of the stigma that surrounds this topic. “Wooh-wooh”…”bro science”…”bullshit”….
Sometimes the only path to truth/discovery is to try things out for yourself….
To question reality, and not just accept what is spoon fed to us.
Almost as if the media and information fed to us by google is encouraging us to watch porn (question that).
If you can go 30 days….you have outpaced the larges masses of addicted men which plague modern society.
Good luck guys.